It’s understandable that many of us have, at one point or another struggled to maintain a routine or even create one to stick by. There are times we encounter a setback that pulls us away, like an unexpected event that takes priority of our focus. Perhaps we even become overwhelmed at some point. Though these moments can be frustrating and disheartening to experience, they serve as reminders that we are allowed to have limits. Just as we can recognize that there could be roadblocks that hinder our consistency to a routine, there are also ways to build upon it and work at it.
Having a routine can emphasize structure; for some, the presence of a routine can be empowering. Not only are routines valuable, but becoming and being consistent with them are as well. Studies have shown that routines and consistency can inspire motivation, create a sense of stability, create positive habits, and reduce stress.
Establishing a routine:
Your routine, your rules. We are all going to have a different routine that works—in other words, one that is “right” for each of us. Reflect on your needs, priorities, wants, and wishes. Since we will all require something different, our starting point is going to look different too. Dismiss comparisons and ask yourself what you want to be more consistent with!
Goal-setting. Take some time to write down (in a journal, on your phone, on a calendar) your goals and make note of their importance to you. Consider using the SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Time-Sensitive) goals acronym to craft yours.
Start small, simplify it! Take note of your starting point and ask yourself what the next steps look like. Want to start meditating? Start with 1-5 minute meditations. Want to start running? Jog in intervals and steadily increase your speed. Journaling? Try writing a paragraph for an entry to start. Whether you start small or go slow, you did start!
Schedule and plan. Set reminders in your phone, write them in your planner, or put them in a place you’re always going to look. Take note of aspects in your current routine you want to improve and substitute with positive and newer habits.
Missing a day is okay. It takes time to adjust to a new routine and consistency is not perfected right away. Be patient with yourself. Remind yourself that you’re trying and be proud that you’re doing it!
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About Tiana Kemp:
Tiana is an intern at Healthy Minds Therapy currently pursuing her master’s degree at New England College (Henniker, New Hampshire) in their online Clinical Mental Health Counseling program. At New England College, Tiana also attained her undergraduate degree in Psychology. She has also served in the United States Marine Corps. Tiana strives to support the transgender and gender nonconforming (TGNC) community by implementing gender-affirming approaches that integrate mindfulness-based approaches and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). To learn more about Tiana, visit HERE.