Loss is one of the most difficult and universal experiences we have as humans. Around the holidays, many people experience a renewed sense of grief, sadness, anger, and longing for people or relationships they have lost over their lives. While it can be hard to experience these emotions, it is important to understand that the process of grieving ebbs and flows. We can be compassionate with ourselves when it arises, and below are some ideas to help us walk through the holiday season together. Â
Ways to Hold Grief this Holiday Season
First, we can talk about our grief to others who can empathize with our experience. This can allow us to feel less alone while also reminding us of a very important psychological principle – that two things can be felt at the same time. We can feel sadness and longing alongside joy and excitement.Â
Second, we can create rituals, either individually or within our support system, to honor and remember the people or relationships we are grieving. Writing a letter, lighting a candle, or attending a community event are examples of rituals that can allow us time to remember and grieve.Â
Finally, we can practice compassion towards ourselves and others. There are no expectations on how you should or shouldn’t feel this holiday season. Leaning into compassion and kindness allows us to be present with those who matter while also being aware of our own feelings.Â
About Maxine Iida:
Maxine is a Resident in Counseling actively pursuing her Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) licensure. She is passionate about working with folks struggling with their relationships with food and their bodies. Maxine has experience offering individual counseling to teens and adults. She specializes in depression, anxiety, disordered eating, and family or relationship issues. Her experience also includes leading group therapy for teens. She has also started a women’s psychoeducational group to focus on self-esteem, body image, and health. To learn more about Maxine, visit HERE!Â