The Process of Healing – What to Let Go of, What Do I keep?

In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer ~ Albert Camus

Healing is a complex process that involves physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects. The process of healing may differ depending on the individual and the specific condition or ailment being treated, but there are some general principles that can guide the healing process. During the process of healing, there comes a time when we must begin to sort out what comes with us and what we decide to let go of and no longer carry.

The Healing Process

A big piece of the work of healing is sorting out what behaviors, thoughts, and emotions are still helpful and useful from the ones that are not and need to be put down. You take things apart and things come apart. It often appears to be one big pile of trash. You examine your losses and review what transpired in your life. But you need to remember to also examine all the ways you repaired or survived to put things back together. And then comes the sorting step. This takes time and is often fraught with discomfort and challenges. When you let go of some of your experiences, it can be hugely painful, even if you know it’s time to let go. On the other hand, you also know there are some things you must keep that are a part of your life story and help shape who you’ve become. This sorting is an act of growth. Growth through improved self-awareness. Growth through feeling. Growth through curiosity.

I recently found a quote from the German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche, which captures an important component of healing. “Be careful when you cast out your demons that you don’t throw away the best parts of yourself.”


About Bradd Buckingham, M.A., LPC-R; Resident in Counseling: 

Bradd is currently a resident in counseling providing counseling services at our Fredericksburg location. He is actively pursuing his license in Professional Counseling (LPC). Bradd is a recent graduate of The University of the Cumberlands with a master’s degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. He completed a demanding internship working with individuals and couples at Fredericksburg Counseling Services.  

Bradd specializes in working with individuals with complex trauma, personality disorders, anxiety, and depression. He can offer a safe environment for individuals and families in the LGBTQ community. Bradd also works with individuals with a variety of ethnic and cultural backgrounds. 

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